A baby, people. I'm having a human baby.
So, I just thought I'd address some of the most common questions I get, and maybe my sarcastic remarks (that I think. Not that I say).
I fully understand what people are asking when they say "do you know what you're having?", but my smart-alec mind always wants to retort "well a mini human, I hope. A dinosaur would be kinda hard to birth".
So, not a question but: "you're huuuugggee!" Yes, usually said with that kind of emphasis. Oh, and you just made my enemy list. Mostly said by someone who has not been pregnant before, and occasionally by someone who I guess by the grace of God forgot what it's like.
"How are you feeling?" Really? "Like a day at the spa. On the inside". I've got little fingers, toes, elbows and knees prodding my insides. My hips and back and skin are stretching. I feel like I'm in a sauna, even on a cool day. I'm always hungry. Not to mention the leaking. From everywhere. TMI? I know. But you asked.
"Maybe you're having twins". Look, I know I'm getting big and all, but now you're just being mean.
And now for the real reason I wrote this post: "You do know how to prevent this, right?" No. Would you explain it to me, in detail, and give me cliff notes? Apparently, even in our 'christian' circles, there are limits. Four children is borderline Amish. I'm actually embarrassed for you if you ask me this question. It's just.... rude. Two children is perfect, especially if there's a boy and girl. Three children- not too bad. Four? You just need to stop. First of all, I love all my children. If I had stopped at Parker, we wouldn't have Caedence. If I had stopped at the "perfect two", wouldn't have Jolie. And if we had stopped at Jolie- well who knows all the blessings this fourth one will bring. Does this mean we're trying to rival the Duggars? Certainly not. But I'm also not limiting what God can do.
Oh, and to answer the real question, yes, I do. And believe me, we've tried.
Ok, to end on a nice one- "You're so tiny." God bless you, you naiive kiss up. Be my bff?
Friday, May 4, 2012
Sunday, April 22, 2012
When God moves
It's hard to explain the feelings you get when you know God is moving you, and working on you. There is definitely a sense of fear. "Am I supposed to be doing this? What if I'm wrong? What if I go through all of this and end up the same? How am I going to get through this?"
There's a sense of anxiety. I've mentioned before that I'm an anxious person, but I think most would agree that when there's a big decision that needs to be made, there's also a sense of anxiety. When will I know? How long will this take? When will this be over?
But there's also a sense of relief, and a sense of thankfulness. We've asked God for this. We've asked Him to work in our lives and to show us what He wants, and it's happening in such a real way.
This has been one of the toughest transitional times in my life (I'm sure in Phil's too, but I'm only going to speak for myself). I've experienced such love and acceptance here in Florida. There have been tough times along the way, but I don't think I've felt unloved. For the majority of our time here, we've had no family members living near, and our church family stepped in and filled that role. I've made great friends, and so have my children.
But when God moves, you go.
It sounds so simple. So definite. And in some ways, it was. But saying goodbye will never be easy. Leaving behind the life we've known for 6 years, the place my children call home, will not be easy. It is the place I've had 3 of my children. Where my job has been so much more than that, and has allowed me to come and go as I see necessary for my family. Where my students have turned into friends, and sometimes even my teacher. The place where people have walked in and out of our lives, for different seasons of time, as God saw fit. No, it won't be easy leaving.
But I look forward to the blessings of our next ministry. I look forward to the new friends we'll make, the lives we'll touch, and that will touch us. I look forward to God showing us what He's working on. I'm excited for the new opportunities we'll have. And of course, I look forward to being closer to family.
I won't say personal goodbyes through this blog. It would take forever, and I'm sure I'd get tired and my brain would get fuzzy and I'd leave people out. But if I haven't said goodbye, it's not because I don't care. It's because I don't want to. I am at the moment living in denial, but it will become all too real this week.
I'll just say that you all will not be forgotten. You've walked with my family through some of our toughest times. You've shared in our joys and in our sorrows. You've encouraged and mentored us. You've helped me to be a better mother and wife. You've been our friends and our family in times of need. There is no easy way to say goodbye. But we hope it won't be goodbye.
There's a sense of anxiety. I've mentioned before that I'm an anxious person, but I think most would agree that when there's a big decision that needs to be made, there's also a sense of anxiety. When will I know? How long will this take? When will this be over?
But there's also a sense of relief, and a sense of thankfulness. We've asked God for this. We've asked Him to work in our lives and to show us what He wants, and it's happening in such a real way.
This has been one of the toughest transitional times in my life (I'm sure in Phil's too, but I'm only going to speak for myself). I've experienced such love and acceptance here in Florida. There have been tough times along the way, but I don't think I've felt unloved. For the majority of our time here, we've had no family members living near, and our church family stepped in and filled that role. I've made great friends, and so have my children.
But when God moves, you go.
It sounds so simple. So definite. And in some ways, it was. But saying goodbye will never be easy. Leaving behind the life we've known for 6 years, the place my children call home, will not be easy. It is the place I've had 3 of my children. Where my job has been so much more than that, and has allowed me to come and go as I see necessary for my family. Where my students have turned into friends, and sometimes even my teacher. The place where people have walked in and out of our lives, for different seasons of time, as God saw fit. No, it won't be easy leaving.
But I look forward to the blessings of our next ministry. I look forward to the new friends we'll make, the lives we'll touch, and that will touch us. I look forward to God showing us what He's working on. I'm excited for the new opportunities we'll have. And of course, I look forward to being closer to family.
I won't say personal goodbyes through this blog. It would take forever, and I'm sure I'd get tired and my brain would get fuzzy and I'd leave people out. But if I haven't said goodbye, it's not because I don't care. It's because I don't want to. I am at the moment living in denial, but it will become all too real this week.
I'll just say that you all will not be forgotten. You've walked with my family through some of our toughest times. You've shared in our joys and in our sorrows. You've encouraged and mentored us. You've helped me to be a better mother and wife. You've been our friends and our family in times of need. There is no easy way to say goodbye. But we hope it won't be goodbye.
Friday, March 2, 2012
I am really good at being stressed out.
It's something that I don't have to practice. It just comes naturally.
One of the things that God has blessed me with is my love of psychology. If not for other people, for myself. What does this have to do with being stressed out? I've become really good at self analysis, and in turn, really good at snapping myself out of it. But it's not always been this way, and I've really had to, and still have to, work hard at relaxing emotionally.
So much of my life has been up in the air. I feel like I've lost a lot of control of what's happening around me. By past experience, feeling out of control of my life can be dangerous. Don't get me wrong- I'm not super strict with myself or kids, but I do like the illusion of control.
On one particular day that I was feeling extremely out of control, I had a God moment. Don't you just love those? It was just a gentle reminder, but it felt like a punch in the gut.
I sometimes wonder why God doesn't speak to me in an audible voice. Or even in a subtle one. Why I can't just open the Bible and see what I need to see for my trouble. Usually the answer is that I get in my own way.
This day that was out of control and I was beginning to feel sorry for myself. There was no plan for anything and I couldn't create one. I felt helpless. After about two to three hours of complaining in my head, I realized what I'd been reading for my personal devotions. The story of Joseph in Genesis had been in my reading for a few days (starting in Genesis 37).
Talk about not having a plan or being able to create one.
Through all of Joseph's uncertainty in his life, all he did was trust God. My brothers trap me in a pit? Sell me as a slave? Go to the top in my masters home, then get thrown in jail? Get forgotten in jail? No problem. Maybe his complaining was edited out, but I believe that Joseph just trusted God- mostly because he was forgiving of his brothers right away, and his successes in Egypt, which I don't think he would have achieved with a poor attitude.
When I thought of all Joseph had gone through (and not just in a 4-5 week period either) I felt slightly ridiculous for my attitude. What in my life has been so uncontrollable that I could not trust God?
I just love the story of Joseph and his reconciliation with his family. Part of my favorite passage is Genesis 45:5-8 "5 Now do not be grieved or angry [e]with yourselves, because (G)you sold me here, for (H)God sent me before you to preserve life. 6 For the famine has been in the land (I)these two years, and there are still five years in which there will be neither plowing nor harvesting. 7 (J)God sent me before you to preserve for you a remnant in the earth, and to keep you alive by a great[f]deliverance. 8 Now, therefore, it was not you who sent me here, but God"
Oh to have the faith to say "it was not you, but God". God is in control of all of my situations, even the ones that seem uncontrollable. I am humbled that I have a God that would care enough about me and my bigger picture to be in control of my situations. I am sure there were times that Joseph wasn't sure of what God was doing. There may have been times where he questioned what was happening.
I think I may always be prone to feeling stress, but I can change the way I handle it. Even in mine and my child's unsure situation now (which is for another time), I can trust that God is in control. He is handling my situation, and when it's all said and done, I can say, "it was God". Truly.
It's something that I don't have to practice. It just comes naturally.
One of the things that God has blessed me with is my love of psychology. If not for other people, for myself. What does this have to do with being stressed out? I've become really good at self analysis, and in turn, really good at snapping myself out of it. But it's not always been this way, and I've really had to, and still have to, work hard at relaxing emotionally.
So much of my life has been up in the air. I feel like I've lost a lot of control of what's happening around me. By past experience, feeling out of control of my life can be dangerous. Don't get me wrong- I'm not super strict with myself or kids, but I do like the illusion of control.
On one particular day that I was feeling extremely out of control, I had a God moment. Don't you just love those? It was just a gentle reminder, but it felt like a punch in the gut.
I sometimes wonder why God doesn't speak to me in an audible voice. Or even in a subtle one. Why I can't just open the Bible and see what I need to see for my trouble. Usually the answer is that I get in my own way.
This day that was out of control and I was beginning to feel sorry for myself. There was no plan for anything and I couldn't create one. I felt helpless. After about two to three hours of complaining in my head, I realized what I'd been reading for my personal devotions. The story of Joseph in Genesis had been in my reading for a few days (starting in Genesis 37).
Talk about not having a plan or being able to create one.
Through all of Joseph's uncertainty in his life, all he did was trust God. My brothers trap me in a pit? Sell me as a slave? Go to the top in my masters home, then get thrown in jail? Get forgotten in jail? No problem. Maybe his complaining was edited out, but I believe that Joseph just trusted God- mostly because he was forgiving of his brothers right away, and his successes in Egypt, which I don't think he would have achieved with a poor attitude.
When I thought of all Joseph had gone through (and not just in a 4-5 week period either) I felt slightly ridiculous for my attitude. What in my life has been so uncontrollable that I could not trust God?
I just love the story of Joseph and his reconciliation with his family. Part of my favorite passage is Genesis 45:5-8 "5 Now do not be grieved or angry [e]with yourselves, because (G)you sold me here, for (H)God sent me before you to preserve life. 6 For the famine has been in the land (I)these two years, and there are still five years in which there will be neither plowing nor harvesting. 7 (J)God sent me before you to preserve for you a remnant in the earth, and to keep you alive by a great[f]deliverance. 8 Now, therefore, it was not you who sent me here, but God"
Oh to have the faith to say "it was not you, but God". God is in control of all of my situations, even the ones that seem uncontrollable. I am humbled that I have a God that would care enough about me and my bigger picture to be in control of my situations. I am sure there were times that Joseph wasn't sure of what God was doing. There may have been times where he questioned what was happening.
I think I may always be prone to feeling stress, but I can change the way I handle it. Even in mine and my child's unsure situation now (which is for another time), I can trust that God is in control. He is handling my situation, and when it's all said and done, I can say, "it was God". Truly.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Journeying On
"Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need." Hebrews 4:16
I don't think I can say enough how thankful I am for you all and your prayers for our family. We've certainly felt them over these past few weeks.
I know what you're all reading this for, so I won't keep you waiting. Our ultrasound was this morning. Thank goodness for a 9 am appointment. I probably wouldn't have made it through the day if it were any later than that.
As I laid on the ultrasound table and the tech started my ultrasound, I felt an amazing sense of peace (which is what I've been asking you to pray for, right?). She showed us the heart beat right away, which was such a praise. My ultimate fear was no heartbeat. As I watched our baby twist and kick and float across the screen, I thought "It doesn't matter anymore." I was just so happy to see the baby, that I really felt as if I didn't care, but I also just knew that things were ok.
The doctor confirmed that also. She said she didn't see anything in the ultrasound that they saw the first time around. The anatomy looked perfect, and the baby looked healthy. Of course, she also said something along the lines of: "it's impossible to be 100% positive from just an ultrasound", so it looks as if I'll also be doing the blood test, but for now, we're just thankful that this part of our journey is over.
God has taught me some incredible things about trusting Him. This morning before my appointment, I kept reminding myself that if I really trusted in God, I needed to let my anxiety go. Apart from the brief lump in my throat, God allowed me to have a fairly anxious free morning. I know part of that is because Phil was with me, part was because you all were praying (thank you!), and all of it was God.
One of the things I've been asking for throughout, and God has been granting me, was peace. So I think it no coincidence that this showed up in our ultrasound. It just showed me, not only how much God loves us and our child, but a little of His sense of humor (seriously, I could not help giggling about it later):
I don't think I can say enough how thankful I am for you all and your prayers for our family. We've certainly felt them over these past few weeks.
I know what you're all reading this for, so I won't keep you waiting. Our ultrasound was this morning. Thank goodness for a 9 am appointment. I probably wouldn't have made it through the day if it were any later than that.
As I laid on the ultrasound table and the tech started my ultrasound, I felt an amazing sense of peace (which is what I've been asking you to pray for, right?). She showed us the heart beat right away, which was such a praise. My ultimate fear was no heartbeat. As I watched our baby twist and kick and float across the screen, I thought "It doesn't matter anymore." I was just so happy to see the baby, that I really felt as if I didn't care, but I also just knew that things were ok.
The doctor confirmed that also. She said she didn't see anything in the ultrasound that they saw the first time around. The anatomy looked perfect, and the baby looked healthy. Of course, she also said something along the lines of: "it's impossible to be 100% positive from just an ultrasound", so it looks as if I'll also be doing the blood test, but for now, we're just thankful that this part of our journey is over.
God has taught me some incredible things about trusting Him. This morning before my appointment, I kept reminding myself that if I really trusted in God, I needed to let my anxiety go. Apart from the brief lump in my throat, God allowed me to have a fairly anxious free morning. I know part of that is because Phil was with me, part was because you all were praying (thank you!), and all of it was God.
One of the things I've been asking for throughout, and God has been granting me, was peace. So I think it no coincidence that this showed up in our ultrasound. It just showed me, not only how much God loves us and our child, but a little of His sense of humor (seriously, I could not help giggling about it later):
Saturday, January 7, 2012
Almost there!
This will probably be my last post before the ultrasound.
I've been trying to figure out what I'd like to convey. It's been a tough emotional journey. I'm constantly thinking about my unborn child, but not in a depressing way. More like the way a mother would. I wonder if I'm having a boy or a girl (although we may decide not to find out), who he/she will look like, will they have blonde hair, like daddy, or dark hair, like mommy? But I am also thinking about what the outcome of this ultrasound will be.
I'm trying not to over analyze what I don't know, and I know Phil is doing the same thing. I can't say I know what Phil's prayers are exactly, but I can say I know that I'm just praying for peace. I'm not necessarily praying for God to "heal" my child. Regardless of the outcome, I believe Psalm 139:14 applies to my unborn child (and other children!) , "I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well".
God has really been doing a work on me the past 5 weeks. I'm pretty much a "go it alone" type of person. I don't like to ask for help even (or especially) when I need it. I even act that way with my Heavenly Father, and there are just those times when God humbles me and says "you need help now. Ask for it". I've been asking for a lot of prayer, and although that seems simple enough for most people, it's not for me. I'm a private person, and usually I like it that way. This journey has made me break down some walls of solitude and humbly ask. I'm also an anxious person by nature. I've been working through this anxiety since high school, and although I hope many people don't notice it, I tend to think worst case scenario. But with your prayers and mine, I have seriously had a peace about this situation. I haven't let myself too often go for the worst case scenario. I haven't even really played out in my head what might happen if there needs to be a diagnosis.
Our ultrasound is this coming week (though we might keep the date private, except telling our family and friends), and I would appreciate your prayers! I still need that peace and patience. Although God has been doing a great deal of work in my life, there's still a lot more work that needs to be done. I still have to fight myself on thinking negative things, or feeling stressed and overwhelmed (which I may feel throughout the entire pregnancy regardless- this is our fourth child, after all!). I still really appreciate your support and prayers. God is good, all the time!
I've been trying to figure out what I'd like to convey. It's been a tough emotional journey. I'm constantly thinking about my unborn child, but not in a depressing way. More like the way a mother would. I wonder if I'm having a boy or a girl (although we may decide not to find out), who he/she will look like, will they have blonde hair, like daddy, or dark hair, like mommy? But I am also thinking about what the outcome of this ultrasound will be.
I'm trying not to over analyze what I don't know, and I know Phil is doing the same thing. I can't say I know what Phil's prayers are exactly, but I can say I know that I'm just praying for peace. I'm not necessarily praying for God to "heal" my child. Regardless of the outcome, I believe Psalm 139:14 applies to my unborn child (and other children!) , "I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well".
God has really been doing a work on me the past 5 weeks. I'm pretty much a "go it alone" type of person. I don't like to ask for help even (or especially) when I need it. I even act that way with my Heavenly Father, and there are just those times when God humbles me and says "you need help now. Ask for it". I've been asking for a lot of prayer, and although that seems simple enough for most people, it's not for me. I'm a private person, and usually I like it that way. This journey has made me break down some walls of solitude and humbly ask. I'm also an anxious person by nature. I've been working through this anxiety since high school, and although I hope many people don't notice it, I tend to think worst case scenario. But with your prayers and mine, I have seriously had a peace about this situation. I haven't let myself too often go for the worst case scenario. I haven't even really played out in my head what might happen if there needs to be a diagnosis.
Our ultrasound is this coming week (though we might keep the date private, except telling our family and friends), and I would appreciate your prayers! I still need that peace and patience. Although God has been doing a great deal of work in my life, there's still a lot more work that needs to be done. I still have to fight myself on thinking negative things, or feeling stressed and overwhelmed (which I may feel throughout the entire pregnancy regardless- this is our fourth child, after all!). I still really appreciate your support and prayers. God is good, all the time!
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